The Best Way To Say No To Him Or Her

How often has a friend suggested doing something really, really dumb...or a  boyfriend tried to get you find yourself in something you know will lead into big trouble.... or you find yourself in something you just don't want to be in. You might really want to say NO, but you don't want your friends, boyfriend, family members to think badly of you. The problem with trying to please other people and being pulled in by beliefs, standards, "rules" and desires is that  YOU get lost in it and you don't have to be. Situations like this put us in a compromising position, but it is possible to come up with cool and reasonable ways to say No...

1. The "Gentle-Let Down"
With some people that you don't want to hurt, like a close friend, there might be the urge to lie. But don't! You might not be able to pull it off and other person knows you're lying and then you feel guilty. Lets say, your friend wanted to skip class and go out with her and she wants you to lie to your mum. You know you can't kip class, because your grades are really low, and your mum given you a warning to "shape up", so tell her! You could actually turn it into a joke, and get your friend laugh at you. It might be hard and your friend may make fun of you, but you know she's not really your friend if she cannot respect a 'NO' from you thereby making you want to tell a lie in the first place.

2. The "Tell it like is"
Telling the truth may be really difficult and not ideal for some people or friends. Not everyone appreciates a moral stand. In this case you have no choice...just say NO and be done with it. A simple, straightforward NO. You can bring up hot gist or the film you just watched that's so awesome just to change the topic and keep everything friendly.

3. The 'Tell and Make up for it"
Sometimes you are tempted to come up with an excuse just to get out of it quickly BUT think again. Bear in mind that explaining yourself to others could be a wasted effort because you can't please everyone and some people will just find a solution for excuse you come up with anyway! You CANNOT please everyone but sometimes you just need to  do stuff of others. If the timing is off and you can't do something, you can't. Make up for it saying NO but offer to do it next time. This way you're not tied down to a specific time but you have left the door open with your NO.